Joanna Fortune: My teen daughter refuses to help around the house 

"She believes she has left the age of command (do as you’re told) and has entered the age of consent (compliance is negotiable and up to her)."

"What you are also experiencing is an example of how teenagers embrace the art of delay."

My teenage daughter refuses to help at home during the school holidays. She spends most of the day in her bedroom messaging her friends on social media, and she’s out almost every night. I’ve asked her to do some basic jobs, such as emptying the dishwasher or putting the clothes on the line, but she always puts them off. I usually end up doing it myself because I don’t want to have another argument. Sometimes, it seems like I’m living with a stranger.

I am guessing your daughter is in early to mid-adolescence, an intense developmental stage that can leave parents feeling like they are living with a stranger.