Sex File: Why will he only have sex on Sundays?

Spontaneity can make planners feel very uncomfortable indeed, and of course feeling uneasy or anxious is not conducive to good sex

After a long drought, scheduling sex on Sunday mornings has helped to boost our marriage. But now he'll only have sex we've planned. If I'm in the mood and initiate it at any other time he isn't interested. How can I encourage him to embrace spontaneity?

Scheduling has clearly helped to get things back on track in the bedroom, so before you push for increased spontaneity think about why planning might be working for your other half. Is he the kind of man who needs routine in his life? Is he a highly anxious or sensitive person? Is he neuro-diverse? For some people routine is the enemy of creativity and freedom, but for others it is a vital way to impose order on chaos and make life less stressful and more predictable.