Sex File: He's not giving me what I want in bed 

Unfortunately, when it comes to oral sex, some men feel that there are different rules for guys.

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I have been married for 10 years and for the past five the oral sex in our relationship has just disappeared. I'd like to encourage my husband in this department, but I am not sure if he just doesn't like it or has got out of the habit. It's awkward to bring up - what should I do?

When you've been together for a long time, it's easy to let things slide. You fall into the habit of doing the same thing, in the same way, because you know that it works, and you don't necessarily have all day to do it in. Experimentation is more time-consuming and it generally involves a greater expenditure of energy, so convenience gradually trumps novelty, and your sexual relationship becomes less exciting.