Sex File: His porn use is so open - I find it insulting 

"There is, I'm afraid, no easy solution to your dilemma, but when an adult male really cares about his female partner, he doesn't ignore her feelings, or make her feel "strange" if she says that she is not comfortable with his porn use"

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I just discovered that my boyfriend, who is 47 (I'm 35), follows hundreds of random women on Facebook, a lot of whom appear to be in the porn industry. I am no prude, but this seems very strange to me as I've never experienced this with previous partners. He does it very openly, though, which makes me wonder whether I am the strange one?

It is difficult to understand why humans derive sexual pleasure from two-dimensional depictions of stuff that they could be doing with the three-dimensional human right in front of them, yet explicit imagery has existed for millennia.