Sex advice with Suzi Godson: 'I need music to get turned on'

Suzi Godson offers up some relationship advice.

I find it hard to get turned on without the right music playing because I feel really self-conscious when it’s too quiet. It means that I make my boyfriend pause any spontaneous sex to put music on. Is it normal to need a soundtrack to get turned on?

You don’t, as you say, need music to get turned on. You need it to help you to feel less self-conscious. As disinhibitors go, it’s a relatively harmless choice and you are not the only person to need music to relax. Music has become such an integral part of everyday life that lots of people feel that they can’t drive, work, study or, for some, have sex without it.