'I find it difficult to keep focused during sex'

Sex advice with Suzi Godson

I am having difficulty keeping focused when I am in bed with my boyfriend. I get one thought about a parking ticket and totally lose the moment. I feel guilty about it, and obviously it’s not something I can share with my partner. I find it really hard to let go.

You are not the only one. In fact, there is even a term for it: Non-erotic cognitive distraction. It has such a detrimental effect on arousal that countless studies have been done on it. It has also been correlated with less satisfaction, less consistent orgasm and, of course, a higher incidence of faking orgasm.