Sex advice with Suzi Godson: Living together is ruining our sex life

Since I moved in with my boyfriend (who I also work with), I feel that domesticity has taken over. We put tracksuit bottoms on when we get home and seem to talk about things mainly to do with work, our house and domestic arrangements. It’s lovely, but it’s somehow made our relationship less sexy.

Sex is important, but don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater. Feeling relaxed enough to let it all hang out is one of the privileges of being in a safe, secure relationship, and domestic bliss does not preclude hot sex.

What you have sounds lovely, but you can limit overexposure by spending time apart developing personal skills or interests. It doesn’t matter what you do. Whether you take a class, go to the gym, join a choir or do some volunteering, forcing yourselves to do things that challenge you and take you outside your comfort zone will allow you to see each other with fresh eyes.