I haven’t had sex with my husband for nearly two years!

Q. My husband and I haven’t been intimate for nearly two years. He’s had a hard time — he lost his job, and his mother died — which is why it all stopped in the first place. 

I really want to reignite our sex life. However, now that we’re trying again, he can’t get an erection. What can we do? What could be the cause?

A. Although most people whinge about having to work for a living, once they are denied the opportunity to do so they quickly realise how much their identity and their self-esteem has been tied to their employment status.