Sex File: How can we spice up the empty nest?

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Our adult children have all now left home, which I thought would be a good chance for my husband and I to reconnect, but we have felt strangely shy around each other in the silence left behind. I would like this to feel like an opportunity for us to reboot our sex life but neither of us are good at talking about it openly. Where do we start?

An empty nest is a big change, and if your marriage was less robust than it sounds, this would actually be a very risky time. When attention is directed away from children and back towards the primary relationship, it can highlight shortcomings. By comparison, this transition seems to be bringing you back into focus with each other.