Sex File: I can't make my new girlfriend orgasm

"The first thing you need to do is include more foreplay and clitoral stimulation because very few women can orgasm from penetrative sex alone."

"Orgasm is an involuntary response, so you can't "give" your partner one. However, there are things you can do to maximise her chances of climaxing."

I don't seem to be able to give my girlfriend an orgasm. This is a relatively new relationship after traumatic divorces for both of us, and she has told me her ex destroyed her confidence. Having never encountered this problem before, it is now affecting my own confidence too. How do I stop this situation damaging a promising new relationship?

Trauma can impede a woman's ability to have an orgasm but so can being in a new relationship. When you have had sex in the same way for years on end, getting used to someone new can take a bit of time.