Sex File: We've got out of the habit of sex

"Couples with young children tend to acknowledge the big changes in their lives, but they often don't recognise the cumulative impact of all the minor ones."

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My finace and I are in our 40s with two children under four. We had a great sex life, but in starting a family we became stuck in 'trying to conceive' sex. It was over a year after our first baby was born before we regained our sex life, then we had a second and the same thing happened. We want to revive things but it feels awkward. Where to start?

You and your fiance are hurtling through so many life transitions I am not surprised your sex life has taken a hit.