Sex File: He wants me to start talking dirty but I'm not keen

Dirty talk requires confidence and experience, and in their absence it is destined to sound embarrassingly unconvincing

I suspect your husband is simply trying to increase the erotic intensity between you by encouraging you to be a little more vocal about your desires

My husband and I have been married for 20 years and I have no complaints about our sex life, but he's now suggesting that I start talking dirty. He says it would turn him on and spice things up a bit, but I am not comfortable using the F-word, even in bed. What else can we do?

Most people who have been married for 20 years don't suddenly develop a novel interest in explicit chat during sexual activity, so it is a big ask to expect you to do something that has never been a part of your sexual repertoire and which requires performative skills that you don't feel you possess.