Sex File: I'm in my 30s and can't reach climax, what can I do?

The clinical term used to describe this is anorgasmia, and there are several types.

I can still get aroused if my partner initiates sex, but I can't reach climax. Picture: iStock

I seem to have lost all trace of desire, and although I can still get aroused if my partner initiates sex, I can't reach climax - even if I take things into my own hands. I'm only in my thirties, so I can't be menopausal. What can I do?

The first thing you need to do is make an appointment with your GP. There are three things that need to be explored here: your relationship and your life circumstances; your sexual history; and any potential medical explanations. Age tends to be the most important clue as to which of these will be the most revealing. For example, a woman who is in her late forties or early fifties might be experiencing hormonal changes associated with the menopause, whereas this is not typically the first line of inquiry with a younger woman, like you.