Sex File: He wants sex in the shower but I don't 

'Novelty is a hugely important driver in everything we do, but we all have a tendency to find something that works and then stick to it'

'Shower sex, like many other sexual adventures, is wonderful when you are in holiday mode, and anathema when you are not.' Picture: iStock 

My boyfriend and I have recently got back from a sun holiday, where we had a lot of sex in the shower. He keeps trying to recreate it at home, but for me, it's just not the same here. The novelty of it was exciting, but I don't find the experience that comfortable or pleasurable. How do I break it to him?

Shower sex, like many other sexual adventures, is wonderful when you are in holiday mode, and anathema when you are not. When you are hot, covered in suntan oil and you don't have to worry about cleaning the bathroom, getting it on in the shower can be great fun. Back home, where getting naked means whacking up the heating? Not so much.