Sex File: My boyfriend's sex talk is off-putting

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My new boyfriend, who is in his early 30s, uses some very laddish language to describe sex. He refers to "shagging", for example, and uses other blunt-sounding ways to describe various sex acts. I find it really crude and something of a turn-off. I don't expect him to be a poet, but I find this sort of directness unappealing. Am I a prude?

You need to tell your boyfriend that his sexual vocabulary is a turn-off. It is best to do this outside the bedroom at a time when both of you are feeling relaxed. Try to be constructive by explaining that his vocabulary feels disrespectful and offering him some acceptable alternatives for the words that trouble you most.