Mourinho today crosses swords for the first time with Andre Villas-Boas — once his protege, now his rival after the breakdown of a relationship.
Mourinho refused to discuss the relationship with his fellow Portuguese on the eve of the White Hart Lane clash, a day after Villas-Boas openly discussed it, although without going into full detail of the circumstances of the fallout.
Asked if issues should be discussed face to face, Mourinho said: “Normally that’s what should happen. My parents taught me that when I was a kid and we say the same to our kids: if you have a problem in school, if you have a problem with somebody, try to resolve it yourself. Don’t come home to ask us.
“If you cannot do it by yourself, you need to ask other people to support you.
“I’m the dad of the dressing room and I don’t want things coming to the dad all the time. Things should be resolved between brothers.”
One player who could be in Chelsea’s squad today, yet was so nearly in the Tottenham ranks, is Willian.
The Brazil winger joined the Blues from Russian club Anzhi Makhachkala, completing the deal despite successfully undergoing a medical at Spurs.
Asked what he did to persuade Willian to opt for Stamford Bridge, Mourinho played down his role, before stressing his belief that Chelsea’s long-term courtship of the Brazilian was the decisive factor.
“I did nothing,” Mourinho said. “Chelsea were trying to get him for two years and Willian always felt very connected with that move and he was frustrated when that move couldn’t happen.
“Then the situation came where he could come, and Chelsea were happy.
“I was just asked about the quality of the player and if I’d like to have him with me, and of course I said yes.”
Chelsea are seeking just a second away win of the season, the first coming on Tuesday night in the Capital One Cup at Swindon.
That win came at a cost, with injuries to midfielders Ramires and Marco van Ginkel. Mourinho will wait to determine if Ramires can shrug off a hip injury sustained in the first half at the County Ground.
The Brazilian had replaced Van Ginkel, who is out for six months after undergoing knee surgery to repair a torn anterior cruciate ligament.
The Dutchman is unlikely to play again this season, particularly as his anticipated return coincides with the sharp end of the campaign, and his World Cup hopes appear to be over.
Mourinho said: “The surgery went well. The doctor is happy with the way the surgery went.
“Now he has to wait and he has to wait for a long time. It’s very sad for a kid that was going into an important season for his development.
“Five months, six months, is a long time. To be back when the season is hot and when the clubs are playing crucial matches, to be back directly for that, we don’t know.”
Juan Mata played at Swindon, tasked with showing a willingness to track back which means he comes into contention.
“The last (Premier League) match against Fulham he was not selected,” Mourinho said.
“If he keeps working that way (like at Swindon), adapting to my way of thinking, the football I want the team to play, the natural tendency is the opposite one, to be in the team.”