'I want to focus on changing lives': Survivor of sexual abuse has no regrets waiving her anonymity

'I want to focus on changing lives': Survivor of sexual abuse has no regrets waiving her anonymity

Charlene Masterson turned to her father when she was threatened but the person who was meant to protect her, failed her. Picture: Collins Courts

The woman who suffered years of abuse at the hands of her father who was jailed last week has told of how she plans to campaign for greater awareness and support for individuals suffering abuse.

Charlene Masterson said she waived her anonymity in a bid to highlight the difficulties she faced.

Speaking on RTÉ radio’s Today with Claire Byrne show, Ms Masterson said that if her friend, who was training to be a social worker, had not confronted her about the abuse, who knew what would have happened.

"Massive stigma" remains

Since the court case, during which she delivered a devastating victim impact statement, Ms Masterson has been doing online courses on domestic violence awareness. 

Such information should be freely available here, she said, but not a lot of what was available was relevant to Irish law.

David Masterson 55, originally from Tallaght in west Dublin pleaded guilty to six counts of rape sexual assault and incest representing 30 offences carried out between March 2007 and June 2014. Picture: Collins Courts
David Masterson 55, originally from Tallaght in west Dublin pleaded guilty to six counts of rape sexual assault and incest representing 30 offences carried out between March 2007 and June 2014. Picture: Collins Courts

There remained a “massive stigma” in Ireland about rape, and sexual assault, she said and she now wanted to focus on changing the system to develop a message like the FAST alert for cases of stroke, which could pinpoint items for individuals to look for in people they suspected may be in trouble.

“I want to focus on changing lives,” said Ms Masterson and explained that the abuse took place for seven and a half years and that she had had seven years since it ended to “process it.” 

“I’m out the other side now. The work I want to do now is the next step,” she said.  

When asked if she had any regrets about waiving her anonymity, she said: “not one.” Her main aim had been to help people and this was “one step of the journey.” 

Abuse discovery

The abuse commenced when she turned 18, she said, but it was only afterwards that she realised her father had been grooming and controlling her from her early teens. 

Later she also realised he had been tracking her phone which was why he always knew where she was and what she was doing.

When the blackmail commenced, she said her father had been “cool and collected” and told her she would have to do as demanded, “I would never have guessed it was my dad,” said Ms Masterson. 

Her father had told her he would be with her and would not let anything happen. On a number of occasions, there was another person involved in the abuse who she said knew that she was his daughter.

When she attempted to assist her grandmother to install a program on her laptop she found a dvd with a recording of two of the abuse incidents, which she knew had been recorded as it had been a “bargaining chip”. 

She then knew that her father was her abuser, but did not know what to do. 

“I didn’t have anywhere to turn to.”

The person to whom she should have been able to turn for assistance was the person who was abusing her. 

“I didn’t have anywhere to turn to,” she said. When she confronted him “a row broke out” and her father asked how she could think it was him, but she did not receive any text messages after that. 

But the abuse continued and spiralled into “open abuse” and sexual harassment, she said. If she did not do as he demanded, “there was hell to pay.” 

Ms Masterson said her father followed her to her part time job and eventually forced her to give it up and the rape and violence continued. 

“He was never happy,” she said. 

In March 2014, when she was aged 25, she went on a weekend away with friends. 

“He didn’t want me to go,” said Ms Masterson and throughout the weekend her father sent texts threatening her, saying he had people he wanted her to meet.

At that stage her friend asked for the first time if her father was abusing her and she said he wasn’t. She knew that he thought what he was doing was “completely normal”. 

At one stage she left out a magazine with a story about incest for him to see, “I thought this will trigger him, but he laughed it off. In his head he thought this was completely normal.” 

The abuse was “never ending.” 

Ms Masterson explained that she was “petrified” of her father and that it was “easier said than done to walk away.” 

Her friend, who was training to be a social worker, “kept pushing” to know more. By that stage her father knew that her friend knew and told her “you won’t see her again.” 

Eventually, her friend, who was due to leave the country, said she would not go “until she knew I was safe.” 

By that stage she realised her father did not care that other people knew and had held her by the throat up against a wall one night when there was another friend staying over. 

Her trainee social worker friend continued to question her and said she would not leave until she had answers. “This time I said yes” when asked if her father was abusing her, she said. 

No impact on abuser

As soon as her mother heard what had been happening she told the father to “get out” and there has been no contact since that day. Ms Masterson said that she saw her father at his mother’s funeral and then on three occasions in court.

When she saw him for the first time in court she had been thrown to see that he had not changed at all physically. She had thought that the impact of what he had done might have caused him to lose weight. 

“Seeing him for the first time, I thought he might be frail, older. But he hadn’t changed at all, it had zero impact,” she said. 

Ms Masterson said she made eye contact in court and “stared him down. That last time I felt absolutely nothing.” 

Ms Masterson said that despite the length of sentence imposed on her father – 24 years, reduced to 18 because he pleaded guilty with one year suspended, he would not serve “all those years” because of the system.

The judge in the case had been very kind, she said. “All cases of this nature are horrific,” she but added the judge had realised the magnitude of what had happened.

"I thought I was weird"

While she had tried counselling, speaking to eight counsellors, she found that it did not help, “I thought I was weird,” she said.  

It was not until she spoke to another person who had a similar experience that she felt she could do something to help change the system. 

“I want to help survivors,” said Ms Masterson thanked the Dublin Rape Crisis Centre for their support during the court case and afterwards. 

She had considered not giving her victim impact statement herself. But she felt it was something she would regret if she did not deliver it herself.

“I haven’t had a dad since I was 18. It’s very sad,” she said. 

She said she had seen friends lose and grieve for a father they loved, “I’ll never have that,” she said. 

“If I ever get married I’ll never have a father walk me down the aisle. I’m ok with that. I’d rather not have one than one who did what he did.”

Guidance needed

While there could not be a template for victim impact statements, Ms Masterson felt there could be guidance provided along with support for the friends and family of abuse survivors. 

Her mother carried great guilt that she was not aware of the abuse, but she said that even if her mother watched her for 23 hours a day, her father would have gotten to her for that last hour. 

“I wasn’t safe anywhere,” she said. 

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