Dear Dáithí: How do I tell my friend I don't want to be her bridesmaid?

'There are so many mini trips away and presents and events before we even talk about the hen, I'm just exhausted thinking about it. The cost of all this is crazy.'

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Dear Dáithí, 

My friend asked me to be her bridesmaid next year. She is a good friend from school, we started primary school together and were inseparable all through school and teen years, but I haven't seen her much in the last few years.