Joanna Fortune: How can I help my children get over their grandad's angry outbursts? 

"To love someone and, at the same time, to be afraid or nervous around them due to their unpredictability is very difficult. It also makes for very complicated grief, which is what you seem to be describing."

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My father was a difficult man to live with. He suffered from depression and, on his dark days, would get angry and say deeply hurtful things. 

Unfortunately, he also had outbursts with my children — we visited to stay in contact with my mum.