I have a wife and family I love dearly — why was I obsessing about another woman?

Falling head over heels for someone you barely know sounds like the stuff of a rom-com movie, but it could point to deeper, unresolved emotional issues. A neuroscientist delves into his experience of an intense office crush to explore the psychological condition known as limerence

Neuroscientist Dr Tom Bellamy: "I have a wife and family I love dearly — why was I obsessing about this other woman? By then, I’d found Dorothy Tennov’s book, so I was able to tell my wife what I was going through.”

When you fall for someone, even if they barely know you exist, is it all-consuming? Do you ache for them, obsess over them, believe that you are meant to be together? Does an innocuous text from them make —or ruin — your day? Does your nervous system go haywire in their presence, reducing you to a stammering wreck?

Do you have an acute need for them to reciprocate your feelings? Do you deify their good points, while ignoring their more mortal aspects?