Sex File: I'm dating for the first time after my divorce and I'm worried I'm boring in bed 

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I've just started dating again after a divorce. As a man of 58, I'm feeling daunted because it seems to me that people are doing things differently in the bedroom now. Do I need to increase my sexual repertoire? I feel as if there's a lot more on the menu in the bedroom than when I was last "out there" 30 years ago.

You are correct. Sex really has changed in the past 30 or so years, and thank goodness for that. For a start, people are much more open about it than they were. So first of all you will probably need to learn how to communicate openly. The key is not to make talking about sex into a big deal, even if it feels alien to you. Discuss sex outside the bedroom, try to talk about it regularly and keep it light, so that if any issues arise you already have an open and honest dialogue.