Sex File: Why doesn't she want more sex? 

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My girlfriend and I were in a long-distance relationship for three years. We are now together full-time, but still having the same amount of sex as before. I find this odd because when we do make love it's great. What is going on?

Although long-distance relationships can be challenging, there are some serious upsides to cramming all your sexual needs and romantic aspirations into a single weekend of languid sex. Long-distance relationships are not spoilt by the mundanity of your normal lives, so they feel fresh for longer. Distance also helps to preserve the sense of "otherness" that can make sex feel novel, unpredictable and exciting. And, of course, when you don't have much time you attend to each other's sexual needs with the kind of intensity that is unsustainable when you are living together.