Sex File: My partner doesn't want to have sober sex 

"At the beginning of a new relationship everything is exciting and sex is so intense that you simply can't imagine a time when it won't feel that way."

Relationships where one partner drinks and the other is teetotal can work well, but research shows that romantic partners can both positively and negatively influence each other's drinking patterns.

Sex with my partner has always been good, but that changed when I stopped drinking. 

Now I want things to be slower, more intimate and connected, while he still wants the falling-through-the-door sex that happens after alcohol. Are we doomed to be mismatched?