Sex advice: Why does my lovely boyfriend use porn during sex?

My boyfriend likes to watch porn before (and sometimes during) sex. He’s so considerate and lovely in all other ways that I find it puzzling. I definitely don’t like it. I’d rather he was focusing on the intimate moment between the two of us than the acrobatics on screen.

Your boyfriend’s openness is unusual, because although men use porn more than women, they generally do so alone. In 2017, Professor Jason S Carroll explored gender differences in porn use in relationships and found that 50% of men — but only 1.2% of women — reported looking at porn weekly. However, 44.6% of the male participants always used porn alone, whereas women were three to four times more likely to report watching it with their partner.