Twitter user Ryan Stephens has become somewhat of an overnight hit after posting a series of tweets in relation to marital success.
His advice included six rules which he and his wife aim to follow in order to be good teammates to each other in their marriage.
His initial tweet read:
"My wife and I have found that focusing more on being teammates and less on being soulmates is a solid recipe for marital success.
Here's quick thread on the 6 rules we try to follow to be a good teammate to each other in our marriage."
What followed was some eye-opening and genuinely useful advice.
My wife and I have found that focusing more on being teammates and less on being soulmates is a solid recipe for marital success.— Ryan Stephens 🥃 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019
Here's quick thread on the 6 rules we try to follow to be a good teammate to each other in our marriage.
Here are Stephen's six rules to a happy, healthy marriage:
1. No one should ever hear anything bad about your spouse from you
It's one thing to joke with friends about something trivial and quite another to demean your spouse's character.
Know the difference and always discuss the latter with your spouse and no one else.
2. Over communicate
You cannot read each other’s minds.
Never assume the other person knows what you meant.
Give each other the benefit of the doubt when miscommunications happen.
Double check if necessary.
3. Try new things together
Even if one of you is typically more adventurous than the other, have fun with it.
Trying new things gets an individual out of their comfort zone and is often easier as a couple, allowing you both to grow stronger together.
4. Be each other’s champion. Celebrate wins and encourage each other
Bring home champagne after a promotion at work, back each other up when engaging in that battle with your heathen toddler, work out together, etc.
Never cut the other person down when they're struggling.
4. Be grateful for each other’s contributions
Whether it be money, time, chores, childcare, or anything else, no one contribution is greater than another.
And don’t keep score.
If you truly value each other’s input, then the scorecard shouldn’t (and doesn’t) matter.
6. Trust and respect each other.
Especially in front of others, including your children.
If you do not respect your spouse in front of other people, why should those people respect your spouse?
After sharing his insightful tips, Stephen's tweet quickly received a lot of traction and widely commended.
His and his wife have also started a repository of articles and advice for people who want to get information and advise on their career, relationships, wealth and wellness.
You can subscribe to the content here.