Sex file: He wants me to make noise in bed

My husband wants me to be a bit more vocal during sex. I’ve tried a couple of times but this is simply not my style. While I want my lovely husband to be happy, groaning and moaning during sex just don’t come naturally to me.

I think you need to clarify what he means by “a bit more vocal”. Does he mean “dirty talk”, or is he just hoping to hear the odd involuntary moan and a few words of encouragement? As you rightly point out, good sex is about being true to yourself, not switching on a different, X-rated identity to ramp things up for your husband. There is, however, a world of difference between hedonic amplification — the use of words and sounds to facilitate arousal — and the ordinary conversations that take place between two people who are having sex.