Heigl reveals bonding difficulties with adopted daughter
Katherine Heigl admits her adopted daughter initially rejected her.
The former âGreyâs Anatomyâ star â who adopted Naleigh from South Korea in 2009 with husband Josh Kelley â says she felt like a âbad motherâ when she failed to bond with her little one.
She said: âI fought incredibly hard for my daughter to accept me as mother. Her rejection almost broke my heart.
âAt first I blamed myself and thought I was a bad mother. It took a while before I could admit to myself that the lack of trust had nothing to do with me.â
To make matters worse, Josh was quick to form a relationship with the 10-month-old. She admitted: "I wasn't exactly jealous, but I was a little bit envious.â
To cope with the pain, the 33-year-old actress threw herself in to work, but soon understood her absence was only making matters worse.
She said: âWhen I realised that, I immediately cut back on work.â
With more time to spend together, the bond gradually developed and Katherine carved out a parental identity of her own.
In an interview with German magazine Bild am Sonntag, she explained: "I'm the cuddler. I'm the one she comes to if she's hurt. And I have a ritual for putting her to bed. She has one blankie that goes over her, one that goes by her face, and one that she holds. It's our little thing."