Sex advice with Suzi Godson: Lack of intimacy can become a toxic problem

Sex advice columnist Suzi Godson suggests couples can get beyond a little tiredness between the sheets.

QUESTION: My wife and I are in our late 40s and we worry that all our friends are having more sex than us. We can go for three or four weeks without feeling the inclination, and then both make a conscious effort to have sex rather than it coming from desire. Is this a worry for our marriage?

ANSWER: If you and your wife are still having satisfying sex, don’t get too hung up on how often you have it. We tend to overestimate how much sex other people have, but the latest figures from the British National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles (Natsal) show that men aged 25 to 34 have sex an average of 5.4 times a month, compared with an average of 4.1 times a month for men aged 35 to 54.