Sex advice with Suzi Godson: Anticipation overwhelms the act of reunion

After all the “waiting and wanting”, actually “having” requires adjusting to the real, rather than the ideal, says Suzi Godson.

Q. My boyfriend is in the army and spends a lot of time away. Whenever he returns home, he wants to have sex almost as soon as he’s back. However, it takes me longer to reconnect.

This makes him feel that I’m not excited to have him back, which I am.