I want boyfriend to talk more during sex

Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for just over six months. The sex is great, but he is so quiet when we’re in bed that it makes me uncomfortable.

I don’t want him to talk dirty, but just communicating — laughing, basically being in a conversation — makes me feel so much more comfortable. How can we reconcile this?

A. I’m not sure that anyone really laughs and chats their way through sexual intercourse. It is a rather intense physical experience, and it is also relatively brief.