Using sex to fill emotional void not healthy

While extreme clinginess and sexual dependency might be mistaken for love and lust in the early stages of a new relationship, over time these behaviours are more accurately interpreted, advises Suzi Godson.

Q. When my new husband and I don’t have sex I become insecure, worried and even sleepless. My husband struggles to understand why it matters so much but I feel that something is wrong if we go even a weekend without having it. When we do have sex, it’s great, but I think that maybe he is right and I do place too much importance on our physical connection. Is it possible to overvalue sex?

A. Although sex is an undeniably important expression of intimacy in any relationship, it seems to have become an unhealthy measure of personal validation for you.