I’ve lost interest in having sex with my overweight wife

Here in the real world, one woman in five puts on a stone and a half in the first year of marriage.

* My wife and I have been together for ten years. I love her very much, but don’t find her attractive. After three kids, she is a couple of stone heavier than when we first met. She feels unattractive, but does nothing about losing weight. I haven’t wanted sex with her for months, and she never initiates it. I’m a fine one to talk, because I’m overweight, too. How can I improve matters?

>> That you have to be thin to be pretty is ingrained from birth in women, but as the feminist, Betty Friedan, wrote in the preface to her 1963 book, The Feminine Mystique: “There is a strange discrepancy between the reality of our lives as women and the image to which we are trying to conform.”