Rather than change your body, it’s time to change your mind

Q. What is it about men and their raging egos?

My husband is always commenting on good looking women, either when we are out or watching the TV together. It’s as if he is undressing them with his eyes. I’ve told him I find it rude and upsetting, but he says I am just being jealous. Of course it’s affecting our sex life — I feel he is comparing me to these beautiful women, all the time.

A.You are struggling with the concept of the ‘body beautiful’, an ideal that is media driven. The visual representation of the perfect woman is everywhere. Newspapers, magazines, TV and the internet urge us to lead a life where we must diet, get smaller, use this make-up, have this surgery and so on, all which we are told will lead us to a better life. And yet no matter how we dress and keep ourselves we are constantly unhappy with our image. It is as if we never measure up.