Talk to Me: My adult children expect me to do all the running at Christmas

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress to loneliness and grief

Happy Christmas for who? Our young adult children expect us to have an open house with a fully-stocked fridge, including chilled beer. I want them to have a good time and bring their friends over but they expect me to do all the running

I know Christmas is supposed to be 'the most wonderful time of the year,' but I dread the pressure. From mid-December to January 1, our young adult children expect us to have an open house with a fully-stocked fridge, including chilled beer. I want them to have a good time and bring their friends over but they expect me to do all the running. To make matters worse, it's our turn to host the extended family Christmas Day dinner. My husband says we'll all row in on the day but I know better. I'm exhausted even thinking about it.

So This Is Christmas  is a beautiful film by Irish filmmaker, Ken Wardrop. The film shares the story of five individuals who will feel familiar to many of us. They are not the typical Hollywood characters — their stories are far more authentic, gritty and Irish. This is your Christmas story; perhaps it's time to consider your role as the architect of the ending.