Sex File: My libido has disappeared since I retired 

"...the reality is that very few people have the same level of sexual desire at 64 as they had at 34 - obsessing over what you have lost is not a healthy way to view the world..."

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I am a 64-year-old man now retired from a busy working life. I am reasonably fit, fairly slim. I have so much to be grateful for, but my libido has evaporated. Part of me thinks it's just life for a man in his 60s. I have been happily married for many years and my wife still has a sex drive, which makes things awkward. What are we to do?

Sexual desire has more to do with your brain than it has to do with your penis, so Viagra and herbal remedies are not going to help you, I'm afraid. Viagra has a purely physical effect. It works by improving blood flow to the penis, but it doesn't have any impact on sexual desire. Of course it can provide a confidence boost that may make you want to have sex more frequently. However, if the issue was never about performance, the drug won't make a difference.