Sex File: Do I let him in on my fantasy when we're in bed?

Fantasy is a very powerful aphrodisiac for women in particular

I’m using fantasy during sex with my husband — should I keep this to myself or tell him?

Fantasy is an opportunity for our imaginations to take a walk on the wild side, but because what happens in our heads tends to be so much racier than what happens in our beds, most people keep quiet about them. Keeping these thoughts private also adds to their erotic charge, and once a specific sequence of mental pictures leads to an easy orgasm, it can create a kind of Pavlovian response where your favourite fantasy triggers arousal and arousal will trigger your favourite fantasy.