Sex File: Why can't we make love on a first date?

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I’ve recently been on a few dates after a couple of years out of the game and on some occasions we’ve kissed, but all the men I’ve met have been resistant to having sex on the first night. Is everyone still following the three-date rule? Why aren’t they biting my hand off?

Do people still follow the three-date rule? Not to my knowledge I must admit, but we are still in the middle of a pandemic, so casual sex with a virtual stranger may not be quite the temptation it once was. Having said that, the fact that you have kissed at the end of the date suggests that these men aren’t concerned about the virus. Is there a possibility that in some cases — and I am sorry to say this — they’re just not that into you? It could also be the case that their reticence is because after a lonely year, these men are more interested in taking it slowly and building up a relationship rather than simply jumping into bed at the first moment. I doubt it is as regulated as needing to stick to a three-date rule.