Sex advice with Suzi Godson: Boyfriend’s cat causes a distraction while having sex

My new boyfriend has a cat. I often look up during sex and see it sitting, staring at me. It makes me instantly lose any focus. He thinks it’s funny and that I’m overreacting. We can’t lock it out of the room because then it scratches and meows and that’s even worse. How can I tune out?

Your boyfriend may be happy to have sex in front of his feline friend, but you don’t have the same emotional connection to his cat, so it is not surprising that you find her presence distracting. The solution is to find a way to keep her occupied in the room that is farthest away from the bedroom. A catnip toy should keep her busy.