It’s best to let a loved one go in peace

I AGREE with Terry Prone’s comments on cancer care and terminal illness (June 29).

I am 37, and have a long-term terminal illness.

While at the moment my health is fine and I lead a full life, there will come a day when that is not the case and when that time comes I hope I will have achieved as much as I could with my life. However, at some point every life must end, no matter how much other people might want a loved one to fight on, and while we seem to understand this when it comes to letting go of a much-loved family pet, or even material items which have had their day, we seem incapable of accepting that sometimes letting a person die with dignity and surrounded by love, at a time of their own choosing, is the most loving thing we can do for them.

Is grief lessened when a loved one dies suddenly, not having availed of every option, or if they die following a long drawn out process during which they subject their body to every option – most of which involve pain and just prolong the inevitable.

Some people go on about how it is only God who can decide the moment of death.

But doesn’t using every means we have to avoid death not also interfere with God’s plan for that person.

If this God is half as loving and forgiving as his followers claim, then it stands to reason he will welcome the ill with open arms knowing they had simply had enough and felt it was time to end their suffering.

If God doesn’t agree he can always make them well again so that they can live a long and healthy life.

Desmond FitzGerald

Canary Wharf


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