I am 31 and I have been in a long-term relationship since I was 15. We recently broke up and now I am out dating again, but I have no idea what I’m supposed to do. I feel like I don’t really know anything about sex apart from my one boyfriend. I don’t even know how many dates you should go on before you have sex.

My long-term girlfriend likes to impose a sex ban every so often, where we spend a week not allowed to touch each other. She thinks it increases the excitement by making us mad with desire for each other, but I think we shouldn’t need that crutch to have good sex.