Gráinne McElwain: 'As a mother, I struggle to maintain my own identity'

'You want to have a career and be who you are, but at the same time, you want to be a good mother - I find balancing that difficult'
I was born in Alberta, Canada. My earliest memory is actually being in a toboggan there with my dad. He's a musician and was playing music there until we came back to County Monaghan when I was four years old. I had a really idyllic childhood. I've always loved where I'm from and I love heading back home to Monaghan.
Myself, my husband, and our three kids live in a Connemara Gaeltacht now beside the sea. Éabha is aged nine, Ferdia is eight, and Eoghan just turned six. I went back to Canada for the first time on my honeymoon in 2008 for three weeks and it was just beautiful. It was a dream come true. I really want to go back with the kids and spend longer there. It's such a fascinating country.