Dear Louise: My best friend and I ended up in an impromptu threesome

"In this season of Love Island, a few of the women have said they don’t fancy a male contestant because he is “too kind” and it leaves me shouting at the television"

Louise O'Neill, author. Photograph Moya Nolan

Over lockdown my best friend and I became close — hand holding, cuddles, etc — but just as pals. (No gay man wants to fall for a straight guy, it spells trouble.) Then in February, we ended up having an impromptu threesome with a female mutual friend. The weeks that followed had my friend and I being even more intimate; the cuddles became more frequent and the odd kiss wasn't unusual. 

He came over for dinner on Valentine’s weekend with a box of chocolates in hand but I continued to play it by ear because I didn’t want to make things “weird”. In March, I admitted my feelings for him, but within that same phone call he asked me for relationship advice regarding a girl he fancied!