Sex File: Is it too late to try new kinks?

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Q: My husband and I have been together for 14 years. I've never mentioned to him that there are a few things I've always wanted to try - nothing fetishistic, just filming ourselves, for example. I'm scared to mention it in case he thinks my kinks mean I'm bored with him - which I am not. How do I broach it?

Filming yourselves having sex is now so commonplace that I'm not sure it even merits the term kinky. And what's wrong with saying you are bored? After 14 years of marriage you are perfectly entitled to feel like you want to change things a bit. You obviously need to broach the subject with sensitivity, but the reality is that people change as they get older, and their sexual interests change too.