Sex File: I think my wife wants me to talk dirty in bed

When it comes to sex, talking about what you don’t like is every bit as important as talking about what you do like

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Q. My wife wants me to talk to her while we’re having sex, but I have no idea what to say. I don’t want to “talk dirty”, if that’s what she means. It feels disrespectful.

A.  Dirty talk is a recurring issue in my inbox. The last time I wrote an article about it I got an email from a female reader who described how her husband had become so obsessed with explicit narratives that she felt obliged to give a saucy commentary throughout intercourse. She got so frustrated that she began to devise ever more extreme storylines. They are now divorced — so maybe they were not compatible in the first place.