Sex advice with Suzi Godson: Her playful biting during sex hurts

My wonderful girlfriend sometimes bites me playfully when we’re having sex. Sometimes, however, she bites hard and it really hurts. I have asked her to stop, but when she’s in the moment she gets carried away and does it again.

Biting can be a strangely pleasurable experience. It’s hard to explain why, but there is a certain bite/don’t bite conflict that exists, which can elicit a certain type of pleasure. The reason why is difficult to describe, but biting is actually an important part of our evolutionary heritage. In the animal world biting, mouthing, nuzzling and nipping is a social exchange, and capuchin monkeys apparently bite one another’s fingers as a way of testing trust.