Why make-up sex can feel so good

How couples argue is an important factor in relationships and a shouting match can be a healthy way of letting off steam. Suzi Godson looks at 

WHEN the rose-tinted glasses come off, as they do eventually in all romantic relationships, we invariably find ourselves embroiled in stupid arguments about whose turn it is to unload the dishwasher, or whether cream is a practical colour for a stair carpet, even if it is on discount. And of course, the majority of arguments have an unspoken subtext; rows about money are generally about power and control; rows about housework are often about a need for respect, and rows about sex are nearly always about a need for love and affection.

How people argue is hugely important, indeed, according to psychology professor, E Mavis Hetherington, conflict style determines not just the risk of divorce, but for women, it also predicts future physical and psychological problems.