My husband has erectile problems. Is it me or stress?

My husband is under stress at work — his job is on the line — and it’s impacting our sex life.

He has difficulty maintaining an erection and says he’s too tired for sex. We are arguing about small things. We are both in our early 30s and have no children. ]

Most men equate erectile problems with failure. Your husband will be unhappy and feel inadequate. It is the most worrying sexual difficulty for a man. It goes to the core and many men sense they have lost their masculinity. One or two minor episodes can be magnified into ‘performance anxiety’, preventing the man from achieving or maintaining an erection. You may be thinking he is no longer attracted to you. Many women wrongly think this, but erectile difficulties have nothing to do with attraction. No man wants this to happen. It is not about lack of love or attraction.