My boyfriend wants us to watch porn together

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for three years. He is open about his interest in online porn. Our sex life is good, but he wants to spice things up. He suggested that we watch porn together. I don’t want to as the sites are aggressive. I’m afraid if I say no he will look for a new partner. Am I being prudish?

>>It is challenging when a couple has different sexual needs — he wants to make sex more interesting; you are happy with the status quo. Whatever the difficulty, it’s important to talk about what’s going on.

You say that you find the porn websites too aggressive. If this is not for you, then you have to say so. With sex, if you don’t want to do something and it is distasteful, be clear that you won’t engage in it. In some relationships, both partners are happy to look at porn and that is fine for them. However, many women find it degrading and don’t want to look at it.