Sex File: What should I do about my husband's lost sex drive? 

Low libido can affect both men and women, and diabetic neuropathy, a type of nerve damage, can cause erectile dysfunction in men.

It sounds like your husband feels impotent in every sense of the word. He feels that he has failed you and he can't see a way through, so he has withdrawn.

My marriage began as an affair fuelled by glorious sex, which caused our exes a lot of pain, but 20 years on we're still very much in love. In the past five years, however, my husband has developed type 2 diabetes and lost his sex drive. We're only in our 50s- how do I live with this?

I understand that you find this situation difficult, but I would urge you to take a step back and think about what your husband has been dealing with. He has had to adjust to the shock of a diagnosis that can be managed but not cured. He has also experienced complications that any man would find challenging - one in three people with diabetes experience sexual difficulties,