Sex File: I fantasise about another guy but never about my husband — is that normal?

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Is it normal to never have sexual fantasies about your partner? I'm still attracted to mine, but when I'm alone, I often find myself thinking about another guy who isn't even as attractive as him. My partner and I are in our 40s and have been together since our 20s. He has asked me to share my fantasies, but I can't tell him about this one.

If you are still attracted to your husband and happily having sex, your best bet is to say nothing. What you fantasise about in your own time is your own business, and there is nothing to be gained by sharing it.